Ever been cheated on?

Has any of you guys(or lady's D) been cheated on? I just heard something about my girlfriend... hope its not true. I pretty much feel like shit rite now but I'll find out tomorrow. (

YES.

I feel for ya man. It's like the worst thing in the world. I mean, trust is a huge thing with me. If you have that, you can pretty much get through anything else, but if every time you go out with your buddies, you have to worry if your girl is out messing around, it really makes your head go crazy.

I hope whatever it is is not true, and hopefully you haven't been together too long. If it is true, NO second chances. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It never fails. She's going to try to cry and say it was an accident and all this shit to keep you, don't listen to it. It's hard to let go, but it's worth it in the long run.

Ya this is prolly the only thing I wouldn't give a second chance with. It more than likely isn't true, and its just some kids spreading rumors but meh... it still kinda hurts.

Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.

[quoteb7d005c575="ilanbg"]Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.[/quoteb7d005c575]

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[quote0a5ec608aa="ilanbg"]Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.[/quote0a5ec608aa]

I'm not going to say anything. I'm just going to get myself in trouble hahaha.

Ultimately though agreed. At least from my experience(s)

Thats funny as hell. And it is like how the math would really work. I think that s really good.

[quoted1f89d2cc5="puppeteer"][quoted1f89d2cc5="ilanbg"]Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.[/quoted1f89d2cc5]

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Lol thats pretty clever.

[quote99fdb3ca62="ilanbg"]Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.[/quote99fdb3ca62]

Yeah, because no man has ever tried the "I was drunk" or "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened" excuse.

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I hope whatever this rumor is, isn't true. Good luck.

I would say, from personal experience, women cheat more than men. One of my friends from college this year had a girlfriend that he cheated on a couple times, but all of my other friends never cheated on their girlfriends. Half the girls I hooked up with, however, had boyfriends, including one I had sex with the first night I met.

[quoteb1407fef0d="tylerc"]I would say, from personal experience, women cheat more than men. One of my friends from college this year had a girlfriend that he cheated on a couple times, but all of my other friends never cheated on their girlfriends. Half the girls I hooked up with, however, had boyfriends, including one I had sex with the first night I met.[/quoteb1407fef0d]

So true.... sometimes I would randomly msg girls that has a boyfriend and tell them that I was very attracted to them since I've known them... and they would have second thoughts on hooking up with me lol

[quote0e890e1262="SaraLovely"][quote0e890e1262="ilanbg"]Chicks always try to make it seem like it wasn't their fault that they cheated. "I was drunk," "he took advantage of my vulnerability," "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened."

Women are whores.[/quote0e890e1262]

Yeah, because no man has ever tried the "I was drunk" or "if you paid more attention to me this never would have happened" excuse.

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Just because some guys act like women doesn't validate chick's habit of never taking responsibility for themselves.

I don't know if men or women are likelier to cheat, although some polls[=http//www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article77126.ece]some polls point towards women. (Commentary[=http//www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/who-cheats-more-do-women-cheat-more-than-men-or-do-men-cheat-more-than-women/]Commentary is better than article itself, in my opinion.)

This is close to off-topic, but I just finished reading Sperm Wars[=http//www.amazon.com/gp/product/0788160044?ie=UTF8&tag=ilabousblo-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0788160044]Sperm Wars, which goes into the evolutionary benefits of pretty much every "common" sex act, from cheating, masturbation, blowjobs (ever wonder why some girls like to suck dick? Or why some guys like to give facials?), gangbangs, etc. It approaches the benefits from both the woman's and man's point of view. This book pretty much changed the way I look at relationships and sexual interaction... came recommended from Tucker Max and co., I definitely recommend reading it for more insight into this sort o' thang. (Wow, was that enough of a plug for you? Fuck you, I just finished reading it a month ago, it's still fresh.)

Ilan, you willing to sell that book?

I'm interested now, but don't want to pay amazon prices D

When you say it changed the way you look at sexual interaction and relationships, does that mean it turned you off from everything, or simply gave you a better understanding of everything so that you can be more knowledgeable of the topic?

[quote02744402b7="puppeteer"]So true.... sometimes I would randomly msg girls that has a boyfriend and tell them that I was very attracted to them since I've known them... and they would have second thoughts on hooking up with me lol[/quote02744402b7]

eh, brian, may I suggest not using that approach to get women? D

i whip it out and the women say yes.

[quote2919039b2b="EatChex89"]i whip it out and the women say yes.[/quote2919039b2b]

eh, brian, may i suggest this method instead? D

[quote65fcd0c481="TravMan162"]Ilan, you willing to sell that book?[/quote65fcd0c481]

Sorry, nope. It's all highlighted and dog-eared, anyway.

[quote65fcd0c481]When you say it changed the way you look at sexual interaction and relationships, does that mean it turned you off from everything, or simply gave you a better understanding of everything so that you can be more knowledgeable of the topic?[/quote65fcd0c481]

In general, it just gave me a better understanding of relationships and sexuality. From a scientific perspective ("what's the evolutionary benefit to bisexuality?") to personal interactions ("why does that turn me on?"). Basically each section of the book presents a fairly common/typical scenario, goes into gross detail about what happens biologically to both sexes, and then explains why (from an evolutionary perspective) we'd develop that way. It's one of the few books where everything I read in it made sense, including the explanation.

Recently started reading [u65fcd0c481]The Alchemy of Love and Lust[/u65fcd0c481], made it about a quarter of the way through and decided it was total trash. Oh well.

[quote4275ac00ea="TravMan162"][quote4275ac00ea="EatChex89"]i whip it out and the women say yes.[/quote4275ac00ea]

eh, brian, may i suggest this method instead? D[/quote4275ac00ea]

This was my last resort.... if all else fail, whip it out

Turns out just to be a rumor. I didn't think it really happened at first anyways so.. I guess I was right?

Good.

I'm glad, I hate hearing about that. Especially cuz you seem like a pretty decent guy. I don't mind when it happens to douchebags, but I hate when girls screw over the good guys

Ya.. I've been on this forum like everyday.. just never posted. I'm prolly going to start being more active here on the FIPG boards. Hah lots of good times!

Thank god haha. I spend tons of time on here and no one ever posts. I get mad bored hahaha.

Hunh, bad timing for this topic for me. Just found out that my boyfriend of 11 years slept with someone else. It's a complicated thing. I've been away for 5 months, and gave him permission to do something if he really wanted to. He didn't for ages, waffled, etc, he's quite loyal. We talked about it a bunch before I left and over Skype since I've been away. Now, two weeks before I'm due to come back, he goes ahead with it. I'm confused as to his motivations. Not sure if he did it just because he felt like he was running out of time, or what. He said before that he wasn't attracted to this girl (he's pretty up front when he IS attracted to someone). I'm like WTF at least sleep with someone hot. Don't just do it for the sake of it. Anyhow, yeah, so I had "permission" too but to be honest just had no desire to pursue anything. Feeling a bit weird about it and really worried about how things will be when I get back.

Sorry for the vent. Just found out about this last night, and realized today that I don't really have any people in my life who I'm close enough to that I can really talk about this....he's my closest friend.

Bah. Bad day.

[quote01531c98db="JennyWren"]Hunh, bad timing for this topic for me. Just found out that my boyfriend of 11 years slept with someone else. It's a complicated thing. I've been away for 5 months, and gave him permission to do something if he really wanted to. He didn't for ages, waffled, etc, he's quite loyal. We talked about it a bunch before I left and over Skype since I've been away. Now, two weeks before I'm due to come back, he goes ahead with it. I'm confused as to his motivations. Not sure if he did it just because he felt like he was running out of time, or what. He said before that he wasn't attracted to this girl (he's pretty up front when he IS attracted to someone). I'm like WTF at least sleep with someone hot. Don't just do it for the sake of it. Anyhow, yeah, so I had "permission" too but to be honest just had no desire to pursue anything. Feeling a bit weird about it and really worried about how things will be when I get back.

Sorry for the vent. Just found out about this last night, and realized today that I don't really have any people in my life who I'm close enough to that I can really talk about this....he's my closest friend.

Bah. Bad day.[/quote01531c98db]

you want to talk?

shoot me a PM.

I think I need to do some more thinking about how I feel about this. I have a tendency to talk my way into thinking one way about something before I really sit down and THINK think about it. I'm almost more worried that I don't feel MORE angry, if that makes sense. I dunno. Confused. But thanks.

[quote50896178a3="JennyWren"]I think I need to do some more thinking about how I feel about this. I have a tendency to talk my way into thinking one way about something before I really sit down and THINK think about it. I'm almost more worried that I don't feel MORE angry, if that makes sense. I dunno. Confused. But thanks.[/quote50896178a3]

welp, I got your back if you need it. I'm a good conversationalist, not just a jackassey incessant poster D

I was in an open relationship for about six months or so... it was a lot of fun but definitely taxing on the relationship.

I've only ever known one person who managed to pull off open relationships, they're definitely tough.

Tell your boyfriend to watch out JennyWren, TravMan is making a move.

[quote01341f9f21="tylerc"]Tell your boyfriend to watch out JennyWren, TravMan is making a move.[/quote01341f9f21]

nope, i'm married to greenmonkey_4u

remember? D

Every relationship I've been in I've been cheated on. I'm in one now and so far so good. We've been together 2yrs so far.

He broke up with me yesterday. Fuck. I'm totally lost.

[quoteb44b02158a="JennyWren"]He broke up with me yesterday. Fuck. I'm totally lost.[/quoteb44b02158a]

geez shock

i'm sorry cry

well it seemed like it was a little on the volatile side anyway. I know it sucks now, but you're definitely going to find someone that is a way better match for you. Five months apart, permission to sleep with other people........ I'm thinking you are going to find something much more stable where you won't have to worry.

Keep your chin up D

Meh, giving a boyfriend permission to sleep around is never a good idea, and if it was his idea, you should have dumped him then.

[quote0370aa7a32="TryinToGetPaid"]Meh, giving a boyfriend permission to sleep around is never a good idea, and if it was his idea, you should have dumped him then.[/quote0370aa7a32]

i totally 100% agree.

if you're going to be away for five months, well, you gotta send him naked pictures haha, it works D

if it gets to the point where sleeping with other people even becomes a concept in the relationship, it's time to be done.

i would generally actually come up with the permission idea if I were away for long....but then again he would probably not be my bf for long if he does take advantage and i don't P

I don't see why anyone would be even remotely cool with their significant other sleeping with someone else.

[quote3acb7786a2="TravMan162"]YES.

I feel for ya man. It's like the worst thing in the world. I mean, trust is a huge thing with me. If you have that, you can pretty much get through anything else, but if every time you go out with your buddies, you have to worry if your girl is out messing around, it really makes your head go crazy.

I hope whatever it is is not true, and hopefully you haven't been together too long. If it is true, NO second chances. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It never fails. She's going to try to cry and say it was an accident and all this shit to keep you, don't listen to it. It's hard to let go, but it's worth it in the long run.[/quote3acb7786a2]


lol,
youre a pretty cold dude, but you speak the truth.

[quote028d62812f="tylerc"]I don't see why anyone would be even remotely cool with their significant other sleeping with someone else.[/quote028d62812f]

I agree

[quote1db7748aa1="CMA198161"]Every relationship I've been in I've been cheated on. I'm in one now and so far so good. We've been together 2yrs so far.[/quote1db7748aa1]

Thats amusing,
but, its not you though, it was the other person.

[quote268139cfa2="mercuryeyes001"][quote268139cfa2="CMA198161"]Every relationship I've been in I've been cheated on. I'm in one now and so far so good. We've been together 2yrs so far.[/quote268139cfa2]

Thats amusing,
but, its not you though, it was the other person.[/quote268139cfa2]


how is that amusing?

depressing maybe.

I think its about time for me to vacate this thread for now,
before i start revealing things. )

hope you feel better jennywren. )

Thanks for the support guys. He wants to try to work things out now, not sure wtf is up. I'm going to wait until he quits changing his mind every 10 minutes before I decide anything myself. Luckily he's going to his mom's this weekend to talk to her, she'll probably slap him upside the head something fierce and knock some sense into the boy - she adores me.

Goddamn do I hate women.


I'm not one to dump my problems out, though (I prefer to fuel it into irrational misogyny), so that's about as detailed as I'll get.

Ugh.

[quotea1eaf3e83b="ilanbg"]Goddamn do I hate women.


I'm not one to dump my problems out, though (I prefer to fuel it into irrational misogyny), so that's about as detailed as I'll get.

Ugh.[/quotea1eaf3e83b]

plz elaborate.

PM me, we can share stories.

what a fucking mess

I almost cheated once... I am glad that I didn't.