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TFOAF

22-11-2007 08:51:57

My father has been extremely ill the past five months.

It starts like this
He came home from work one day and he noticed two huge red bumps on his feet (one on each one, near his ankle). They hurt him a lot, it was difficult for him to walk. He went to the doctor and the doctor said they were spider bites. He gave my dad medication and I think steroids or something. So my dad took that...well, it nearly killed him. He came home from work another day, and told my mom to take him to the hospital, because he didn't feel right. Well, it was a good thing he went, he would've been in a coma if he didn't go that day (according to the doctors). While he was there, he was diagnosed with diabetes. Now, his parents didn't have it, but we found out that his grandmother had diabetes, and it had skipped a generation to him, since it can be genetically transferred. He had to stop taking the steroids that the other doctor told him to take for the so called "spider bite." More and more red bumps grew on my dad's legs, and he was taken to the hospital again. The doctors performed a biopsy on the bumps and gave him some medication to help make the bumps go away. A few weeks go by, and things started to get better, he was able to walk without severe pain or anything. Then things started getting worse again the past month. His legs have been the worst they have ever been. It's extremely difficult for him to walk now, and he's been to so many doctors, and they really don't know what it is. They say it's rare. They aren't red bumps anymore, just his legs are in a lot of pain. The doctors claim there are tumors inside of his legs, and that they are benign. They rated them on a scale of 1 to 12 or 10, a 1. So I mean, it's nothing life threatening, just my dad can barely walk. While I was away at school, my mom and sister have been suffering through it. My family's been in a horrible mood, and my mom and sister keep crying. I found out that my dad was in so much pain one day, that he was crying. During dinner on the weekends, he would shake constantly, because his legs were in so much pain, the table would shake as well. It was hard for us to eat. This other doctor prescribed him narcotics yesterday, because of the pain. They seemed to have eased the severe part of the pain, and made his legs sort of like, numb. All I hear is my mom and sister crying all over the place.

Well, that's the story, and I thought everyone should know, I don't know why though. Maybe you guys could pray for him. Thanks.

And...we're not doing anything for Thanksgiving because of my dad's legs.

Hope everyone else has a great and healthy Thanksgiving.

Twon

22-11-2007 09:00:57

That's terrible. I hope it is properly diagnosed and taken care of. I just shake my head at the number of times he has had to goto the hospital and been told something different...

Try and have a happy Thanksgiving.

maksmom

22-11-2007 09:40:16

That's horrible! I'm so sorry to hear about your family's difficulties. I really hope the new prescription helps your dad, being in constant pain is just awful. And [i7dd2942296]watching[/i7dd2942296] a loved one being in pain is almost as hard. You'll be in my thoughts today. I know it's difficult, but like Twon said, try to have a Happy Thanksgiving.

samz465

22-11-2007 09:40:30

cry

Powerbook

22-11-2007 09:59:34

I hope your dad feels better. Happy Thanksgiving.

sandra habina

22-11-2007 12:31:05

Oh this saddens me - I do hope the doctors can help find relief for your Dad.

You and your family are in my prayers dear one.

theysayjump

22-11-2007 13:29:23

I'm not a fucking Doctor, but diagnosing sores on your feet as spider bites seems a bit......negligent?

Surely the first thing a Doctor would diagnose would be Diabetes.

One of the guys I work with just had his mum have her leg amputated a few days ago due to Diabetes because she had sores on her feet, she's legally blind and couldn't see them, so they were left and then became gangrenous.

Sorry to hear about your Dad, man. I know a lot of people (myself included) make fun of you and give you a hard time on here, but if you need anything let me know.

JOSHBOX

22-11-2007 13:37:38

FOAF, keep a positive attitude and things will turn out alright. Try to have a happy Thanksgiving.

TFOAF

23-11-2007 20:21:14

Thsnks guys. Hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

My dad didn't go to work today, and he's the one who makes the majority of the money in our household. My mom doesn't make that much. ( We don't know if he's going to work on Monday either. Ugh. (

All he did today was come downstairs for food, but otherwise stayed upstairs and watched TV. I stayed with him for a few hours and watched "Curb Your Enthusiasm" with him.

h3x

23-11-2007 21:35:12

I'm sorry to hear of your father's condition. I know what the feeling is like when a family member is in pain (physically and emotionally).

Your father will get better soon
.בעזרת השם

TFOAF

24-11-2007 08:07:28

My dad's back in the hospital. \

TFOAF

24-11-2007 08:13:33

My mom just called from the hospital crying...telling my sister and I that he's very sick... cry

Requiem

24-11-2007 08:26:55

Oh my gosh, I will pray for your TFOAF. I'm so sorry.

Jams44

24-11-2007 12:53:03

[quote89b450bb51="theysayjump"]I'm not a fucking Doctor, but diagnosing sores on your feet as spider bites seems a bit......negligent?[/quote89b450bb51]

Trust me. Doctors are stupid sometimes. One time I went to the doctor with some red spots on my chest. He told me to get antibacterial soap and scrub hard. Turns out it was some rare plant outbreak and by scrubbing I was endangering y lungs oir something. So ya, doctors are human too.

TFOAF,

Hope your Dad gets better. He's in my prayers

freedesktoppc

24-11-2007 16:14:43

[quote83394760eb="h3x"]I'm sorry to hear of your father's condition. I know what the feeling is like when a family member is in pain (physically and emotionally).

Your father will get better soon
.בעזרת השם[/quote83394760eb]

I would have never guessed you were jewish.

jwwws

24-11-2007 16:14:52

TFOAF,

Seriously, it's terrible to hear about the horrible things in life, even when it's about people you really don't know. Hang in there man and please keep us updated as soon as you know more.

TFOAF

24-11-2007 18:26:25

Thanks guys, I appreciate your support. Well, my mom's home, but my dad's staying at the hospital. They still don't know what to do.

bullseye4u

24-11-2007 18:59:53

sorry to hear (

sandra habina

24-11-2007 19:19:33

Hopefully they will bring in some specialists to check your father over.

Stay positive and strong dear. God Bless

Big War Bird

24-11-2007 19:50:12

Best of luck to you.

Erfurth

24-11-2007 20:47:48

Good luck to u

zdub08

24-11-2007 20:48:02

just for the record, I also blame the doctor who went through 4 years pre-med + 4 years med school + 3 or more years residency.

nobody2000

24-11-2007 23:04:26

Doctors have to diagnose people based on what they see and what they are told. It's not like anyone is going to present a textbook-perfect case of something. If a doctor sees bumps or sores in an area often affected by spider bites, he's going to treat what's most obvious rather than what it could be. It's painful and economically difficult to put EVERY patient through a battery of tests...everything's not the fantasy you see on House MD every Tuesday night. Doctors often take all the evidence they have and make their diagnosis. Occasionally and unfortunately, they're wrong.


I'm sorry to hear about your father. I, with everyone else wish him and your family the best.

TFOAF

25-11-2007 15:19:22

Apparently, I misunderstood my mom. He doesn't have tumors in his legs...rather...he has a tumor in his pancreas/liver area which is causing these "black and blue" type of things on his legs, which are extremely painful. We went to visit him in the hospital today. Some time this week, they are going to perform some nuclear test or something, and then maybe he'll get some injection which should make the tumor slowly go away.

...and the tumor is inoperable.

manOFice

25-11-2007 16:20:27

stay strong foafy. I hope he gets better, i'm glad to see they know what the cause is ... now to fix him up!

Requiem

25-11-2007 16:40:00

As ManofIce said, strength is what will get you through this. Optimism is the key to recovery.

TFOAF

25-11-2007 17:16:01

[quotee4bbed8649="manOFice"]stay strong foafy. I hope he gets better, i'm glad to see they know what the cause is ... now to fix him up![/quotee4bbed8649]
They said it's extremely rare, and they only have experimental things for him. There really isn't a cure for what he has. \

egyptianruin

25-11-2007 20:11:29

TFOAF I love you! You, your father and the rest of your family are in my prayers. If you ever need anything at all please let me know - if it's support, you can't chat online because of stuff, etc. Just send me a PM. I know the pain of seeing someone you love in pain - it's really hard.

mookieb2

26-11-2007 01:26:22

Man, I don't know you, but I feel for you. My family and I will pray for yours.

slambam

26-11-2007 20:05:53

Just keep thinking positive and everything will turn out alright. Sure you Dad is hurting and thats horrible, but the main thing is that he's still there with you. So people lose there parents young, and us who still have our parents are the luckiest people alive. I don't want to sound like a therapist, but just try to show him that your happy (at least around him, I'm sure he hates to see you and your family so upset) and maybe that will cheer him up. Theres no doubt in my mind things will get better for him, just keep the faith.

TFOAF

26-11-2007 21:03:33

My mom spoke to the doctor and the doctor said it doesn't look too good and that he is very sick.

egyptianruin

26-11-2007 21:05:11

[quote5cccb4cdca="TFOAF"]My mom spoke to the doctor and the doctor said it doesn't look too good and that he is very sick.[/quote5cccb4cdca]

( I'm sorry TFOAF.

J4320

26-11-2007 22:38:33

I'm really sorry to hear that, TFOAF. My condolences. I hope everything turns out well. I hope your grades hold up too because it's hard to concentrate on school with outside issues like that. Hang in there. (

tylerc

27-11-2007 00:14:18

O FOAFY-

Hang in there. Sorry sexi ilu

sandra habina

27-11-2007 02:51:10

Prayers are being sent dear, stay strong and positive - I hope it works out well for you and your family and your father. God Bless

TFOAF

28-11-2007 18:40:16

I just spoke to my mom again (I spoke to my dad earlier). My mom seems extremely sad and upset. She was telling me that he's "very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, sick." She told me that she needs to have a [ibc41d546d0]private conversation[/ibc41d546d0] with my sister and I, and that the doctor has to have a private conversation with my father. My mom told me that my dad needs a cane to walk now, and his legs get worse everyday. They're going to take him to some doctor who specializes in cancer in New York this weekend. I'm at the verge of breaking into tears. My mom keeps telling me to pray that he just makes it through the next day.

skepticalcynic

30-11-2007 10:05:13

I hate that this is happening to your family. I know personally what it is to be a family member of someone with a chronic/acute illness. The best advice I can give you is to never take any doctor's word as a final answer. Always keep asking questions and getting opinions from every doctor and hospital you can find. And most important of all - fill the moments with joy and laughter and love; don't waste the time by worrying.

TFOAF

01-12-2007 10:46:14

Ugh, he came home on Thursday...but now he's going back to the hospital right now because he doesn't feel well and he can't go to the bathroom. cry

sandra habina

01-12-2007 15:46:51

Hang in there TFOAF - it was good that the doctors felt he was okay to come home. This might be a side effect of his medications.

Prayers are still being sent dear. Stay positive and strong.

TFOAF

01-12-2007 20:51:48

A big thank you to everyone!

He's back from the hospital, and he has to go to a urologist soon, as well as the best cancer specialist in NYC in two weeks.

aviendha47

01-12-2007 21:01:00

Good to hear. Take care

h3x

02-12-2007 04:19:38

Hang in there, man. Things will get better.

TFOAF

11-12-2007 06:20:53

My dad needs chemotherapy.

sandra habina

11-12-2007 06:49:23

Doctors work miracles now with those procedures. Keep up a positive attitude dear. Prayers for your dad and family. God Bless

level99

11-12-2007 11:09:49

TFOAF man, your dad will be in my prayers. Take care of yourself and keep smiling as I am sure that is what your dad wants.

TFOAF

23-12-2007 08:28:11

My dad had his second five-and-a-half hour chemotherapy treatment yesterday. Apparently those things on his legs are spreading up his back now. lisighli

Admin

23-12-2007 09:23:41

[quotee65026a292="theysayjump"]I'm not a fucking Doctor, but diagnosing sores on your feet as spider bites seems a bit......negligent?

Surely the first thing a Doctor would diagnose would be Diabetes.

One of the guys I work with just had his mum have her leg amputated a few days ago due to Diabetes because she had sores on her feet, she's legally blind and couldn't see them, so they were left and then became gangrenous.

Sorry to hear about your Dad, man. I know a lot of people (myself included) make fun of you and give you a hard time on here, but if you need anything let me know.[/quotee65026a292]especially if it's late onset or type 1, diabetes can be difficult to diagnose because the symptoms are, individually, flu-like in a lot of cases.

when 99 people walk through your door with bumps on your ankles and they all get better when you give them antivenom, you're going to give the 100th person antivenom. obviously i know nothing of the situation, but doctors are only human.

TFOAF

29-12-2007 20:18:14

Now um...he can barely walk up stairs. He literally holds onto the step to push himself up, and when he reaches the final one, it's a huge struggle. (

And the doctors still don't know what's wrong with his legs.

ajasax

29-12-2007 21:40:26

Has he had a second opinion? On one of my favorite shows, Mystery Diagnosis, they go to several doctors before getting a complete diagnosis. Some of them even diagnose themselves by searching the internet and library.

Whatever it is, sorry it's happening to your dad. Like others said, we may rip on you a lot online, but we all have sympathy for serious matters like this. I couldn't imagine seeing my dad go through this. Hope he gets better.

TFOAF

02-01-2008 16:28:00

I just found out...that the doctors are 99% sure that tumor is what is causing all these problems...and, the leg thing, I think...is called

"Erythema Nodosum".

http//www.medicinenet.com/erythema_nodosum/article.htm

I hear my dad talking to someone on the phone saying, "for the rest of my life I need chemo."

zdub08

02-01-2008 18:03:59

do you have to make this so dramatic?

I'm sorry about your father and the situation, but seriously..

bugs53666

06-01-2008 08:27:24

i do hope things get better for you and your family. Hang in there.

lizaoreo

06-01-2008 10:22:06

I know things are rough, I had a close friend go through a whole big mess finding out she had cancer not too long back, but they were able to operate and she had to take 3 months of precautionary chemotherapy. I'll be praying for you and your family.

JOSHBOX

06-01-2008 11:28:07

[quote9b1191472c="zdub08"]do you have to make this so dramatic?

I'm sorry about your father and the situation, but seriously..[/quote9b1191472c]

Dude shut the hell up, he is scared and stressing about this whole situation and he is obviously looking for some sympathy. After everything he is going through he at least deserves that.


It's good that the doctors have diagnosed the problem, it should be easier to treat. Even if he has to have chemo for the rest of his life, at least he is getting a treatment. -/

zdub08

06-01-2008 16:05:53

[quote097b8fd84c="JOSHBOX"][quote097b8fd84c="zdub08"]do you have to make this so dramatic?

I'm sorry about your father and the situation, but seriously..[/quote097b8fd84c]

Dude shut the hell up, he is scared and stressing about this whole situation and he is obviously looking for some sympathy. After everything he is going through he at least deserves that. [/quote097b8fd84c]
DUDE SO TRUE

Powerbook

06-01-2008 16:18:34

[quote3fadcfbdc1="zdub08"][quote3fadcfbdc1="JOSHBOX"][quote3fadcfbdc1="zdub08"]do you have to make this so dramatic?

I'm sorry about your father and the situation, but seriously..[/quote3fadcfbdc1]

Dude shut the hell up, he is scared and stressing about this whole situation and he is obviously looking for some sympathy. After everything he is going through he at least deserves that. [/quote3fadcfbdc1]
DUDE SO TRUE[/quote3fadcfbdc1]

You could be a little more considerate.... You do know that karma bites back hard? If my father was extremely sick I would be freaking out even more than foafy. I think he is handling it quite well actually.

zdub08

06-01-2008 17:05:26

this is a freebie forum, not a family.

so, naturally, I think it's just weird when some guy with a cat avatar thinks I should know about his dad's mysterious cancerish disease.

"Just thought you should know..."

no, no one here needs to know.

Kidd

06-01-2008 17:14:16

zdub no need to be an asshole

he is using the forum to vent and for some sort of sympathy.

no need to be a jerk about it.

stfu and ignore this topic if it disturbs u

Powerbook

06-01-2008 17:17:13

Shame on you to even act like this.... Being an arrogant prick will get you no where, one day you will see this.

dmorris68

06-01-2008 17:30:41

zdub08, I guess I don't expect you to be sympathetic, being an e-thug and all, but I'm telling you to drop it and leave this thread if you don't like it. Yes, it's a freebie forum, but we talk about most anything (legal) here. I'll bet if I dug up some of your posts, they wouldn't all be about freebies either. So drop it.

Everybody else, drop it as well.

Yeah, FOAFY is a bit emo at times, a bit melodramatic at times. So what. People can suffer from much worse character flaws. liahemli

zdub08

06-01-2008 18:19:45

yeah, you can remove that "e-thug" title whenever you want; I realize you mods are powerful.

TFOAF

27-02-2008 21:12:04

So the chemotherapy is kind of helping a little bit for the cancer part, the doctors believes. His liver was not as swollen. He went for an MRI today, and about his legs...there's some serious damage to is legs for some reason, and his bones. And the doctors said if he ever gets better with the chemotherapy which is slim they might do knee replacement surgery and shit like that. But...really? It's bad. (

sandra habina

27-02-2008 23:33:32

Of course it is - but you need to be strong for your dad and family.

Try to remain positive - it does help. Your family is in my prayers.

puppeteer

27-02-2008 23:51:50

Im sorry to hear about your dad.... just thought Id let you know that my late uncle had cancer also and the best thing we've done for him is just try to be with him as much as we can

YourGiftsFree

28-02-2008 03:17:09

My Grandfather passed away last Thursday due to an 11 month battle with cancer. See him as much as possible, if needed don't hesitate to get a 2nd opinion on anything if anything is iffy. Good luck Craig. Paryers here.

TravMan162

28-02-2008 16:48:14

[quoteace1fa0ac9="zdub08"]this is a freebie forum, not a family.

so, naturally, I think it's just weird when some guy with a cat avatar thinks I should know about his dad's mysterious cancerish disease.

"Just thought you should know..."

no, no one here needs to know.[/quoteace1fa0ac9]

who brought this guy...

seriously, i've given foafy some tough love too, but this isn't the place for it... have some respect man and give the kid a break... his dad is sick and he's upset you don't have to be such an inconsiderate prick about it.

Foaf, is there an update on this lately?? I never realized you were dealing with that until i just caught this thread... and then i see this guy trying to punk you, everyone else has your back, no worries.

EatChex89

28-02-2008 18:15:34

[quote60e5e099ce="TravMan162"][quote60e5e099ce="zdub08"]this is a freebie forum, not a family.

so, naturally, I think it's just weird when some guy with a cat avatar thinks I should know about his dad's mysterious cancerish disease.

"Just thought you should know..."

no, no one here needs to know.[/quote60e5e099ce]

who brought this guy...

seriously, i've given foafy some tough love too, but this isn't the place for it... have some respect man and give the kid a break... his dad is sick and he's upset you don't have to be such an inconsiderate prick about it.

Foaf, is there an update on this lately?? I never realized you were dealing with that until i just caught this thread... and then i see this guy trying to punk you, everyone else has your back, no worries.[/quote60e5e099ce]

You are a mod wanna be.

Anyway, Foaf. Stay strong man and visit him as much as possible, as YGF said, my grandpa had cancer for about a year and then died pretty abruptly. NOT to say your dad is going to die, do NOT think that way, but make sure you visit often to uplift him and show him that you are rooting for him. For some reason it seems to be that if you fight it mentally, it goes away physically.

J4320

28-02-2008 19:09:25

^ You've been all over Travman's ass like Collateral on a fleshlight. You no liek him muchos???

CollidgeGraduit

28-02-2008 19:56:36

Quit bickering.

JKirk

29-02-2008 10:27:49

[quote5e2d9fa3bd="J4320"]^ You've been all over Travman's ass like Collateral on a fleshlight. You no liek him muchos???[/quote5e2d9fa3bd]

LOL, right before I saw your post, I was thinking that... yes, those exact words.

TFOAF

29-02-2008 11:02:14

[quoteb85823a738="EatChex89"][quoteb85823a738="TravMan162"][quoteb85823a738="zdub08"]this is a freebie forum, not a family.

so, naturally, I think it's just weird when some guy with a cat avatar thinks I should know about his dad's mysterious cancerish disease.

"Just thought you should know..."

no, no one here needs to know.[/quoteb85823a738]

who brought this guy...

seriously, i've given foafy some tough love too, but this isn't the place for it... have some respect man and give the kid a break... his dad is sick and he's upset you don't have to be such an inconsiderate prick about it.

Foaf, is there an update on this lately?? I never realized you were dealing with that until i just caught this thread... and then i see this guy trying to punk you, everyone else has your back, no worries.[/quoteb85823a738]

You are a mod wanna be.

Anyway, Foaf. Stay strong man and visit him as much as possible, as YGF said, my grandpa had cancer for about a year and then died pretty abruptly. NOT to say your dad is going to die, do NOT think that way, but make sure you visit often to uplift him and show him that you are rooting for him. For some reason it seems to be that if you fight it mentally, it goes away physically.[/quoteb85823a738]
Yeah, I go home from school every weekend, (like everyone else, hahah), but I get to see him the entire weekend.

TFOAF

30-03-2008 08:05:39

Haven't written here in a month or so...but when he went for an MRI, they said that they saw shrinkage in the tumor and he felt no pain when the doctor felt his organs; however, his legs are still in horrible pain, and only if the cancer gets better can they possibly do a knee replacement.

The chemo just stopped working that he's on and they have to give him a different kind of chemo which has worse side effects and everything.

My mom said she hopes my dad can see my sister graduate from high school and me graduate from college...but other than that...he's got Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer...that's the final stage of it.

TFOAF

18-12-2008 20:47:46

Well, I come home today for the start of my break...found out my father's been in the hospital with a fever, and that the chemotherapy stopped working, and that he needs a device surgically implanted to deliver medication to his body 24/7.

'(

ilanbg

19-12-2008 00:51:54

[quotebc72d9551f="TFOAF"]'([/quotebc72d9551f]

If anything, it warrants a cry


Seriously though, that sucks. Sorry to hear that.

Powerbook

19-12-2008 05:57:32

Sorry man, I hope things get better. (

sandra habina

20-12-2008 16:00:00

I am so sorry to hear this. I do hope things get better. Your family is in my prayers Craig.

bullseye4u

21-12-2008 17:01:18

Damn man I hope he gets better

TFOAF

21-12-2008 18:03:16

Went to see him in the hospital yesterday and today. His surgery is tomorrow ... apparently the tumor is spreading. cry

akalic

22-12-2008 04:08:06

ahhh shit like this gets me upset, knowing that it happened to my grandfather too

best wishes