Hot women make men insecure!!

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A Hart

26-05-2007 08:04:23

First I must say that I don't think I'm hot. Other people do and I can tell guys are checkin' me out a lot, BUT......

IT IS A CURSE. I have been in 2 major relationships and both times, after exclusivity was established, they both turned into monsters that had to have their thumb on me at all times. They both became so insecure that a trip to the grocery store had to be a family chore. Then the, "don't wear make-up" started and on and on from there until I hadn't any freedoms left. So I left. And now I am experiencing the same shit with every guy I try to casually date. I hang out with them once and the phone calls start. Then I feel like I am having to reassure HIM that I like him 6 times a day. That will KILL any feeling that I might have had.
I suppose I am just venting. To be so "Hot" I feel rather alone and victimized, actually.

FreeOffersNow

26-05-2007 08:21:21

Perhaps the guys you're meeting [i6c099f519b]do[/i6c099f519b] have insecurity issues...but have you considered that it could be something you're doing? I know this sounds like an asshole "diagnosis" - but some women just have the type of personality (very flirtatious, for example...even if to you it means absolutely nothing...might suggest more to someone else) that causes a man to "become" insecure about himself and/or the your relationship. Just a thought.

ILoveToys

26-05-2007 08:22:03

Yeah, guys are insecure......you need to find someone who is very social to begin with, and doesn't have a huge desire to spend every second with you.

dupebag

26-05-2007 08:22:53

[quote9efde572a1="A Hart"]First I must say that I don't think I'm hot. Other people do and I can tell guys are checkin' me out a lot, BUT......

IT IS A CURSE. I have been in 2 major relationships and both times, after exclusivity was established, they both turned into monsters that had to have their thumb on me at all times. They both became so insecure that a trip to the grocery store had to be a family chore. Then the, "don't wear make-up" started and on and on from there until I hadn't any freedoms left. So I left. And now I am experiencing the same shit with every guy I try to casually date. I hang out with them once and the phone calls start. Then I feel like I am having to reassure HIM that I like him 6 times a day. That will KILL any feeling that I might have had.
I suppose I am just venting. To be so "Hot" I feel rather alone and victimized, actually.[/quote9efde572a1]

Pics? ;)

but yah...i gope that doesnt happen to me with the chick im about to go out with...seeing shes hot

JUNIOR6886

26-05-2007 08:35:10

[quote6ae3e3e167="A Hart"]First I must say that I don't think I'm hot. Other people do and I can tell guys are checkin' me out a lot, BUT......

IT IS A CURSE. I have been in 2 major relationships and both times, after exclusivity was established, they both turned into monsters that had to have their thumb on me at all times. They both became so insecure that a trip to the grocery store had to be a family chore. Then the, "don't wear make-up" started and on and on from there until I hadn't any freedoms left. So I left. And now I am experiencing the same shit with every guy I try to casually date. I hang out with them once and the phone calls start. Then I feel like I am having to reassure HIM that I like him 6 times a day. That will KILL any feeling that I might have had.
I suppose I am just venting. To be so "Hot" I feel rather alone and victimized, actually.[/quote6ae3e3e167]

id have to disagree..... maybe you just happen to be attracted to psyco guys... some girls like the "wrong type" if you know what i mean

personally, ive found over the years than a few knees to the face solves the problem of being with a girl thats too hot shrug

MyungChunHa

26-05-2007 08:38:35

[quote079f0f6771="ILoveToys"]Yeah, guys are insecure......you need to find someone who is very social to begin with, and doesn't have a huge desire to spend every second with you.[/quote079f0f6771]
Most guys are insecure, but then again (not sure if most, but at least me) guys know when they have nothing to worry about, it's really all about trust...

So IMO, either you are very flirty like someone said above or you just have bad luck with picking guys ?

ajasax

26-05-2007 08:44:00

Maybe they're feeling insecure because of what they might be doing behind [ia6f568ff3c]your[/ia6f568ff3c] back? The 'ol beating heart under the floorboards? Either way, you probably don't want to marry someone who is that controlling.

A Hart

26-05-2007 08:52:16

If you want to see what I look like I think you can click the link and get there. I'm cheknuout30

http//www.match.com/search/searchSubmit.aspx?RN=4&PN=1&DO=0&lid=1000005

And maybe I am attracted to the wrong guys, and I like the tip about finding someone who is also naturally social.
I'm on match.com now. I know it sounds desperate, but I'm just trying, atleast, to meet a wider range of people.

FreeOffersNow

26-05-2007 09:00:57

[quoted4845a3d9f="A Hart"]If you want to see what I look like I think you can click the link and get there. I'm [id4845a3d9f][bd4845a3d9f]cheknuout30[/bd4845a3d9f][/id4845a3d9f][/quoted4845a3d9f]

Perhaps I'm right about you being very flirtatious ;)

jy3

26-05-2007 09:03:34

yeah it also depends on the age of the guy and their experience in relationships. with your relationship history you have more experience in dealing with the other half including having the confidence to believe in yourself and your ability to rebound from something happening should the other person not be faithful. a lot of younger guys or even older ones without relationship experience are insecure b/c of this lack of experience.
if you have attributes that others would find appealing that makes it more likely in their minds that you could get taken away.

A Hart

26-05-2007 09:06:42

[quote224651b6b0="FreeOffersNow"][quote224651b6b0="A Hart"]If you want to see what I look like I think you can click the link and get there. I'm [i224651b6b0][b224651b6b0]cheknuout30[/b224651b6b0][/i224651b6b0][/quote224651b6b0]

Perhaps I'm right about you being very flirtatious ;)[/quote224651b6b0]

If you consider attentive and polite to be flirting. I guess.

A Hart

26-05-2007 09:08:30

[quote4a01a52873="jy3"]yeah it also depends on the age of the guy and their experience in relationships. with your relationship history you have more experience in dealing with the other half including having the confidence to believe in yourself and your ability to rebound from something happening should the other person not be faithful. a lot of younger guys or even older ones without relationship experience are insecure b/c of this lack of experience.
if you have attributes that others would find appealing that makes it more likely in their minds that you could get taken away.[/quote4a01a52873]

I can see that. The last relationship was 8 years long and the guy was 12 years my senior. So at either end of the age spectrum I have had difficulty. But I am hopeful that it'll work out. Or atleast that I'll get used to hanging out by myself.

FreeOffersNow

26-05-2007 09:11:11

[quotec11eb5e99b="A Hart"][quotec11eb5e99b="FreeOffersNow"][quotec11eb5e99b="A Hart"]If you want to see what I look like I think you can click the link and get there. I'm [ic11eb5e99b][bc11eb5e99b]cheknuout30[/bc11eb5e99b][/ic11eb5e99b][/quotec11eb5e99b]

Perhaps I'm right about you being very flirtatious ;)[/quotec11eb5e99b]

If you consider attentive and polite to be flirting. I guess.[/quotec11eb5e99b]

I was suggesting that the handle "checking you out" might suggest something about you...perhaps not. I'm not trying to be rude...just trying to help you out. I live with who was, until recently, my girlfriend of 4 1/2 years. I lived on campus for the past 4 years while she was 80 miles away living in our apartment...so I know a bit about trust and security.

A Hart

26-05-2007 09:24:10

I used that name because some of the names on there suggest that they are looking for a permanent mate. Or looking for love, ya know the ones.
I decided this name would suggest a more casual interest. Apparently I was wrong. And I guess it would be nice to find someone I could get into, but I haven't met anybody yet that I would lay down for, much less consider dating seriously.

maksmom

26-05-2007 09:27:38

Hey, A, you should date a man who's superhot...then you two could look [i7653121975]fabulous together [/i7653121975]and make whole other couples insecure!! wink

But seriously, insecure guys are a pain to deal with. I dated a guy on and off when I was 15 to 19 (he was 7 years older). He wanted to marry me, but I just wasn't into spending the rest of my life stuck to his side like he wanted, so I had to dump him. At 15, I thought he was sooo awesome! He played guitar! He rode a motorcycle! He was a rebel! He wanted me with him constantly and just was always checking up on my. By 19, I knew I would [i7653121975]hate[/i7653121975] being his wife. On the other hand, I knew my husband would be a great husband when I saw how he treated his mother. He spoke about her with respect and was very kind to her (but not in a mama's boy kind of way). He was also a great friend to his friends (guys and girls alike). And he was never "too cool" to do silly, fun things in public. He didn't play guitar! He didn't ride a motorcycle! He was just a really nice, you see what you get kind of guy and I knew he wouldn't be the insecure type because of all that. Now I'm not really a flirty type anymore, but I do have guy friends and it doesn't seem to bother him. Lucky for me because we've been together for 15 years and married for almost 13 of them!

A Hart

26-05-2007 09:29:59

[quote1114f9f88b="ajasax"]Maybe they're feeling insecure because of what they might be doing behind [i1114f9f88b]your[/i1114f9f88b] back? The 'ol beating heart under the floorboards? Either way, you probably don't want to marry someone who is that controlling.[/quote1114f9f88b]

I wondered that myself. A whole lot. But he never did anything, he was always up to his neck in my butt. Seriously, he worked right next to where we lived and I was always home, at the end. But for eight years the longest time we ever spent apart was a business trip I had to take to IL.

But I really appreciate all of your thoughts! If you keep talking..... I'll keep talking. I was on here for so long yesterday that I forgot to eat until about 1130 last night. I'm goin' through it!!!! cry

JOSHBOX

26-05-2007 09:34:12

Dont be so full of youself, you just found bad guys...

A Hart

26-05-2007 09:47:14

[quote000f6f9701]Hey, A, you should date a man who's superhot...then you two could look fabulous together and make whole other couples insecure!! [/quote000f6f9701]

Funny, no way. A superhot guy usually knows it and is conceited. I just want someone symmetrical and not gonna get fat in a few years. (as far as looks goes)

jy3

26-05-2007 10:47:38

[quotefb8c3eb91b="JOSHBOX"]Dont be so full of youself, you just found bad guys...[/quotefb8c3eb91b]


hmm, she said she didnt think she was hot...and that is considered full of herself?

JennyWren

26-05-2007 10:50:19

[quote3425279b05="A Hart"][quote3425279b05]Hey, A, you should date a man who's superhot...then you two could look fabulous together and make whole other couples insecure!! [/quote3425279b05]

Funny, no way. A superhot guy usually knows it and is conceited. I just want someone symmetrical and not gonna get fat in a few years. (as far as looks goes)[/quote3425279b05]

Wow. So if you find the perfect guy and he gains weight you would dump him? Shallow.

A Hart

26-05-2007 10:53:03

[quote5ed649088b="JennyWren"][quote5ed649088b="A Hart"][quote5ed649088b]Hey, A, you should date a man who's superhot...then you two could look fabulous together and make whole other couples insecure!! [/quote5ed649088b]

Funny, no way. A superhot guy usually knows it and is conceited. I just want someone symmetrical and not gonna get fat in a few years. (as far as looks goes)[/quote5ed649088b]

Wow. So if you find the perfect guy and he gains weight you would dump him? Shallow.[/quote5ed649088b]

No, just honest. I take care of myself and I would expect them to do the same.

JUNIOR6886

26-05-2007 11:04:52

[quote7e5a766193="JennyWren"][quote7e5a766193="A Hart"][quote7e5a766193]Hey, A, you should date a man who's superhot...then you two could look fabulous together and make whole other couples insecure!! [/quote7e5a766193]

Funny, no way. A superhot guy usually knows it and is conceited. I just want someone symmetrical and not gonna get fat in a few years. (as far as looks goes)[/quote7e5a766193]

Wow. So if you find the perfect guy and he gains weight you would dump him? Shallow.[/quote7e5a766193]

maybe its cause im 20, but personally, significant weight gain isnt something id be willing to put up with.

A Hart

26-05-2007 11:10:11

I don't think it has anything to do with your age. And for some people looks don't matter, but to me they do. Obviously if the person I fell in love with was stricken with something that changed their appearance I would not be so harsh. But if you are able bodied you should care enough about your appearance to keep it up.

Rewman

26-05-2007 11:22:02

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A Hart

26-05-2007 11:37:27

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Back at ya, butthole.

Tholek

26-05-2007 12:43:10

People, people...love conquers all. So does a lock.

A Hart

26-05-2007 12:45:52

[quotea9cbc718d9="Tholek"]People, people...love conquers all. So does a lock.[/quotea9cbc718d9]

"butthole" doesn't deserve a lock. He smacked me in the head, how should I have responded?

Tholek

26-05-2007 12:49:29

I wasn't so much responding to you, as to him...

Rewman

26-05-2007 13:20:32

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Back at ya, butthole.[/quote62cb71398f]

haha

Now back on topic....
I know where you're comming from (the whole insecure because of hot ordeal) it's rare to find a guy like me, so keep looking.

michae229

26-05-2007 13:26:32

I've made a girl feel insecure man that is so much power its like spider man no the President "with great power comes responsibility" and i abused it like free food

Wolfeman

26-05-2007 13:45:25

I'm not insecure. I hit on girls way out of my league all the time. I get shot down all the time. I know my personality makes up for my lack of hotness. I wish pretty girls would give nice guys a shot shrug

JUNIOR6886

26-05-2007 14:05:01

I dont hit on girls out of my leauge cause it doesnt seem like a worthwhile pursuit.... [ass] luckily there arent many girls outside my leauge 8) [/ass]

insecure clingy girls are fun for about 30 seconds, then it gets weird when they start calling you constantly at all hours of the night shock

Tholek

26-05-2007 14:58:14

[quotebfc8557c78="Wolfeman"]I'm not insecure. I hit on girls way out of my league all the time. I get shot down all the time. I know my personality makes up for my lack of hotness. I wish pretty girls would give nice guys a shot shrug[/quotebfc8557c78]

QFT.

Although I've not always followed this advice, it's the way to go. Rejection may hurt, but less so as time goes by. Part of the equation is that you feel confident enough to ask, and confidence is a plus for them. (Don't be cocky though)

A Hart

26-05-2007 14:58:37

[quote2a996b075d="JUNIOR6886"]I dont hit on girls out of my leauge cause it doesnt seem like a worthwhile pursuit.... [ass] luckily there arent many girls outside my leauge 8) [/ass]

insecure clingy girls are fun for about 30 seconds, then it gets weird when they start calling you constantly at all hours of the night shock[/quote2a996b075d]

THAT callin all the time is exactly what I can't deal with. Should I go out by myself tonight? I'm debating it. Never done it before. What would I do. Just go to club and wait for someone to talk to me? I have no girlfriends, not allowed in a super-controlled environment.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 15:57:18

[quoteec3f9e2faa="A Hart"]First I must say that I don't think I'm hot. Other people do and I can tell guys are checkin' me out a lot, BUT......

IT IS A CURSE. I have been in 2 major relationships and both times, after exclusivity was established, they both turned into monsters that had to have their thumb on me at all times. They both became so insecure that a trip to the grocery store had to be a family chore. Then the, "don't wear make-up" started and on and on from there until I hadn't any freedoms left. So I left. And now I am experiencing the same shit with every guy I try to casually date. I hang out with them once and the phone calls start. Then I feel like I am having to reassure HIM that I like him 6 times a day. That will KILL any feeling that I might have had.
I suppose I am just venting. To be so "Hot" I feel rather alone and victimized, actually.[/quoteec3f9e2faa]
Wow you boys.... P !

How long have you been "single'?? I always had along term b/f with close to getting married. They wanted to be married! BARF Two of them were very clingy, always thought i was cheating, or was going to cheat. Other two were just jerks after 2 years. So i dumped them. Men always hit on me or bought me drinks. Took me on a date or two. Then call me for days. The blah blah blah stuff.
Give up on men for awhile. Go get a new friend and go have some fun. Let loose. Meet awhole bunch of new friends. Then maybe they have a cute ass brother who is sweet as honey!!!

puppeteer

26-05-2007 16:00:35

hey hart do you have a PICTURE D

moviemadnessman

26-05-2007 16:03:06

[quote73d17e4492="puppeteer"]hey hart do you have a PICTURE D[/quote73d17e4492]It was already posted earlier http//www.match.com/profile/showprofile.aspx?lid=1000005&TP=U&UID=XKEMBSMZ55IyptbDabqUUw%3d%3d&Handle=cheknuout30

And A Hart...sorry you have been running into the bad guys ?

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:03:29

I have officially been single for three weeks. And it sucks!!!! I want exactly what you said. A couple of friends just to go out and party with when I can. So far the best result is my Gay prom date who still lives around.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:09:29

[quoteaabfa581f8="A Hart"]I have officially been single for three weeks. And it sucks!!!! I want exactly what you said. A couple of friends just to go out and party with when I can. So far the best result is my Gay prom date who still lives around.[/quoteaabfa581f8]
Yeah its hard finding new friends...but it can be done!! I just went out by myself for awhile. Course I loved to play pool. Met some interesting friends that way.

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:15:04

That is a great idea! I am going to go and play some pool!
Okay, give me a line Jenne. How do I join a game and what should I look for at the table?

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:18:10

lol...u dont need any lines to play pool. Thats what makes it soooo easy. Just go kick some ass!! Be pool shark!

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:20:35

The place I am planning to go to always has packed tables so I would have to join a game. And I wouldn't know what to say. My hands are already sweaty just thinking about how awkward I would feel.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:24:04

well here in wisconsin...all we had to do was put our quarters up and wait till we were next....if someone comes up to you....just talk normal, casual...like your not really looking. best man to meet is the one your not expecting. D

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:27:49

You have to pay at the bar to reserve a table for so many hours. What the hell. They'll either let me join or they won't right!

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:29:11

If they dont let you join....just try a more friendly bar. LOL Good luck and have some fun! Bring a condom....naaa just kidding!!!

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:33:02

LOL....I would have to meet the FINEST man in VA to need one of those tonight. Just not into it yet.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:34:56

Go up to a the one player who is having fun. Ask them how the shooting is..then ask that person if you can join in. Have a shot first..it will calm your nerves.

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:38:05

I'm a total light-weight and I have to drive. It's Diet Soda for me all night. Maybe one Smirnoff Ice.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:39:31

Oh and if you are just trying to make any friend like a girl. Just ask them where they got there purse or something. Or lipgloss. Susie did that with me and we are still friends. See i was a regular and she just moved to town and was at the bar. Seen my lipgloss and asked me where i got it. Conversation just went from there....

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:40:36

no taxis in your town?? lol

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:43:05

Not where I am coming from. It would cost $200 just to get there and home. LOL. I'm in the smallest town in the whole state probably.

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 16:47:01

Wow that sucks! lol I always take a taxi even when I go out for ONE. Yeah you can have 2 drinks if you plan on being there for awhile. Hope you have fun.

A Hart

26-05-2007 16:54:41

Thanks Jenne, I'll report back tomorrow!
I think I spent my karma point this six but i'll get you later!

FreeOffersNow

26-05-2007 17:31:52

You guys may want to take this to PM...

As for going out alone...I generally think that if someone is out alone, there is something wrong with them. Maybe it's because I'm coming out of 4 years of college where people generally go out with friends...but I have friends who feel the same way.

Words of wisdom If you're not used to going out, ask a female your age what a good place to go out on a [whatever day of the week you want to go out on] is. Reason being, the "hot spot" might well be a great time for people who go there...but if all of those people are 21-24...you'll look and feel out of place, and not likely have very much fun at all. If you work, you may be able to ask a co-worker...who knows, they may invite you to join them for a drink sometime.

maksmom

26-05-2007 18:26:50

A Hart, I applaud you! I would [i896a0fd85c]never[/i896a0fd85c] have the guts to go out alone, on a weekend, to a bar...or anywhere! If you start feeling insecure tonight, just remember that I, for one, am admiring your move. Hope you have a [i896a0fd85c]great [/i896a0fd85c]time and meet some nice, fun people to hang with! D

stueybaby17

26-05-2007 18:35:51

Well this doesn't quite fit, but I was one of those guys you were talking about, because I had a relationship 9actually two) where I didn't understand why the girl would be dating me. But at the time I wasn't worried about anything. Well one girl out of nowhere wont' return my calls and I find out that she has been seeing some guy behind my back for a month. The other girl cheated on my with her ex-bf.

So after those experiences I get a little nervous about that type of thing and I crowed and called all the time and was never away from my next girlfriend. And she got tired of it and told me. So I relaxed a little bit and within a month she had cheated on my with this guy that she was "just friends" with that I wouldn't let her go out with alone before because I always had to be there.

So maybe it is just from the guys personal experiences?

And after that I wonder WTF is wrong with me?

Jenne1975

26-05-2007 18:39:09

Nothing is wrong with you..unfortunately some people are just big jerks! I took it all as a big ol learning experience and just stopped looking for the right one or wrong one. I just made it ME time and then I found the right guy when I wasnt even looking. So.....it could happen to u also.

aviendha47

26-05-2007 19:05:36

[quotee6844ca4a2="Wolfeman"]I'm not insecure. I hit on girls way out of my league all the time. I get shot down all the time. I know my personality makes up for my lack of hotness. I wish pretty girls would give nice guys a shot shrug[/quotee6844ca4a2]



Sometimes it takes some time for a girl to realize that nice guys are the way to go. Get all that picking the wrong/jerk/abusive guys out of their system and finally find a healthy relationship with someone who's actually worth their time. I'd say nice guys are usually worth that time. )

Wolfeman

26-05-2007 20:01:55

I'm waiting for girls to see that ;)

maksmom

26-05-2007 20:24:07

Yeah, absolutely...it's the nice guys who get us nice girls in the end. You hang in there, stueybaby, you'll meet a girl who won't jerk you around. In the meantime, just have fun!

theysayjump

26-05-2007 21:23:12

[quote99eeb00e04="FreeOffersNow"]You guys may want to take this to PM...

As for going out alone...I generally think that if someone is out alone, there is something wrong with them. Maybe it's because I'm coming out of 4 years of college where people generally go out with friends...but I have friends who feel the same way.[/quote99eeb00e04]

That's a bit narrow-minded. Just because someone wants to be alone or not be around friends or family etc doesn't mean there's something wrong with them.

Ever had a stressful day where you just want to be alone? Some people decide to go out and relax at a pub or get something to eat on their own, just to be away from anything or anyone that reminds them of whatever is causing them stress.

[quote99eeb00e04="michae229"]I've made a girl feel insecure man that is so much power its like spider man no the President "with great power comes responsibility" and i abused it like free food[/quote99eeb00e04]

This thread can be closed now since The Oracle has spoken.

good2speed

27-05-2007 06:11:03

oh please as if women aren't insecure. Once women are in a relationship they are dominated in they become very insecure. Will all the married men please stand up and put an end to this non sense.

And AHart is not that hot to where a guy has to be so worried about whats shes doing all the time. This thread is utter and complete nonsense

good2speed

27-05-2007 06:13:39

[quote23b81d724c="maksmom"]Yeah, absolutely...it's the nice guys who get us nice girls in the end. You hang in there, stueybaby, you'll meet a girl who won't jerk you around. In the meantime, just have fun![/quote23b81d724c]

Im just afraid that my only options will be the ones who have already been married to the asshole and divorced them or the really young and immature girl.

A Hart

27-05-2007 07:43:00

[quotebcae0b8a9a]oh please as if women aren't insecure. Once women are in a relationship they are dominated in they become very insecure. Will all the married men please stand up and put an end to this non sense.

And AHart is not that hot to where a guy has to be so worried about whats shes doing all the time. This thread is utter and complete nonsense[/quotebcae0b8a9a]

I appreciate the fact that you think my personal problems are utter nonsense. Honestly, good2speed, when you see a thread like this, take your parents advice. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
I appreciate all of the ACTUAL, helpful responses everyone has posted. And now I feel like I am not the only one who has gone through this and come out on the other side. Why don't you post your pic and we can all take turns see how NOT HOT you are? Or maybe you are bitter for another reason?

good2speed

27-05-2007 07:57:02

[quoteddf9622458="A Hart"]
I appreciate the fact that you think my personal problems are utter nonsense. Honestly, good2speed, when you see a thread like this, take your parents advice. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
I appreciate all of the ACTUAL, helpful responses everyone has posted. And now I feel like I am not the only one who has gone through this and come out on the other side. Why don't you post your pic and we can all take turns see how NOT HOT you are? Or maybe you are bitter for another reason?[/quoteddf9622458]

I never put myself out there as someone who's hot and gives women insecurity issues.

but whatever what kind of help are you looking for. We already told you to go out and just find someone who is secure with himself. What more do you want?

Its a universal problem for men and women... if you care for your significant other then its only natural to speculate on whether or not they are cheating. At some point there has to be a level of trust instilled in the relationship or otherwise its doomed.

A Hart

27-05-2007 08:14:48

The point is, your statements were not meant to be helpful.
I'm a good girl and I don't deserve the way most men treat me. I take care of my kids and my business and myself. As for going out and finding someone with the advice ya'll have given me, I did, and I will continue. It's not that simple though. What I want right now I believe is unattainable. Most guys my age that are single are READY for that super-intense relationship, unless they are man-whores. (liwinkli to Wolfeman)
I'm not. And it just keeps going round and round. Maybe I'm just too impatient. Which is also a curse.

JUNIOR6886

27-05-2007 08:28:48

[quoteae31dfc475="FreeOffersNow"]You guys may want to take this to PM...

As for going out alone...I generally think that if someone is out alone, there is something wrong with them. Maybe it's because I'm coming out of 4 years of college where people generally go out with friends...but I have friends who feel the same way. [/quoteae31dfc475]

but going alone helps you avoid cockblocks.... D

FreeOffersNow

27-05-2007 09:28:18

[quotea37ff80827="JUNIOR6886"][quotea37ff80827="FreeOffersNow"]You guys may want to take this to PM...

As for going out alone...I generally think that if someone is out alone, there is something wrong with them. Maybe it's because I'm coming out of 4 years of college where people generally go out with friends...but I have friends who feel the same way. [/quotea37ff80827]

but going alone helps you avoid cockblocks.... D[/quotea37ff80827]

And also leaves you without a wingman.

Also, TSJ, it may be narrow-minded...but at least I'm honest.

Admin

27-05-2007 11:22:13

that's such a bullshit rationalization and you know it

gmario

27-05-2007 11:42:37

[quote6f3fd64a75="A Hart"]First I must say that I don't think I'm hot. Other people do and I can tell guys are checkin' me out a lot, BUT......

IT IS A CURSE. I have been in 2 major relationships and both times, after exclusivity was established, they both turned into monsters that had to have their thumb on me at all times. They both became so insecure that a trip to the grocery store had to be a family chore. Then the, "don't wear make-up" started and on and on from there until I hadn't any freedoms left. So I left. And now I am experiencing the same shit with every guy I try to casually date. I hang out with them once and the phone calls start. Then I feel like I am having to reassure HIM that I like him 6 times a day. That will KILL any feeling that I might have had.
I suppose I am just venting. To be so "Hot" I feel rather alone and victimized, actually.[/quote6f3fd64a75]

pic?

JUNIOR6886

27-05-2007 11:49:50

[quoted7c6232045="A Hart"]If you want to see what I look like I think you can click the link and get there. I'm cheknuout30

http//www.match.com/search/searchSubmit.aspx?RN=4&PN=1&DO=0&lid=1000005

And maybe I am attracted to the wrong guys, and I like the tip about finding someone who is also naturally social.
I'm on match.com now. I know it sounds desperate, but I'm just trying, atleast, to meet a wider range of people.[/quoted7c6232045]

hooked on phonics' a hell of a drug...

burritopunk

27-05-2007 13:24:32

Just curious A Heart where in VA are you from?

A Hart

28-05-2007 06:44:13

I had a great time the other night drinking my diet cokes and watching all of the other people get shitty and make fools of themselves.

Luckily, one of my best friends in the world worked at the bar and took care of me all night. It was basically what I figured. Bunch of people trolling for a piece of butt.

To Burritopunk, I am just outside of Roanoke, VA.
Thanks to all that have responded here.
I appreciate all of the help I can get at this point.

Wolfeman

28-05-2007 09:42:50

[quotec0d694ec24="A Hart"]I had a great time the other night drinking my diet cokes and watching all of the other people get shitty and make fools of themselves.

Luckily, one of my best friends in the world worked at the bar and took care of me all night. It was basically what I figured. Bunch of people trolling for a piece of butt.

To Burritopunk, I am just outside of Roanoke, VA.
Thanks to all that have responded here.
I appreciate all of the help I can get at this point.[/quotec0d694ec24]
) People watching is fun at a bar...

gmario

28-05-2007 10:36:48

[quote0abf85fce6="Wolfeman"][quote0abf85fce6="A Hart"]I had a great time the other night drinking my diet cokes and watching all of the other people get shitty and make fools of themselves.

Luckily, one of my best friends in the world worked at the bar and took care of me all night. It was basically what I figured. Bunch of people trolling for a piece of butt.

To Burritopunk, I am just outside of Roanoke, VA.
Thanks to all that have responded here.
I appreciate all of the help I can get at this point.[/quote0abf85fce6]
) People watching is fun at a bar...[/quote0abf85fce6]


not when they are watching you wink