Here's what happened...

Ok, so tylerc has asked for more detail on my post about the $50 so here it is
It's a really long story so here is the short version, but it's still not that short.

In June of 2004 I had just broken up with my boyfriend, and was on the rebound. I was at work (which was the worst job in the world) and this guy hit on me...seeing as I was newly single I was flattered. I saw him at the bar later that week and being drunk I we started to flirt...well then it turned into a relationship- if thats what you can call it. We have been "together" for almost two years now...but all it has been is fighting. He moved to Texas from another state so he was by himself, with no support- nothing. I am too nice of a girl sometimes so I would help him out (also because I like to spoil people I am with) so I would take him shopping, buy him stuff, whatever. He kept saying when I get on my feet I'll take care of you. When we were together we had a lot of fun, but when we weren't he was with some other girl(s). We "took a break" and stopped talking for about 3 months, and little did I know another girl jumped in and out of the picture quickly...she was a dirty whore. Anyway, we started talking agian and I was really skeptical, so I stopped buying him things and acting like I did before. Well then he took it as I wasn't interested anymore and if I didn't "prove" I wanted to be his girlfriend then he wasn't going to make me his girlfriend...so i would put in a little effort and then just get pissed when he was still an ass.

So...a few weeks ago he wrecked his car, and he supposedly can't drive it. So he called me yesterday and asked if he could borrow my car to take it to the airport to see his dad who he hadn't seen in awhile. So, being the nice girl I am I said I have to work but as soon as I can leave I will bring you my car, but you may be a few minutes late. He got mad, and said leave work early. He then proceeded to tell me if I cared about him I would know how important his dad is to him. So I made a compromise, I said I'll leave a little bit early so you are only a few minutes late. Seeing as I was going to school two hours early (to do nothing) just so he could see his dad, I figured that would be ok with him. Well it wasn't good enough...but I ended up taking him my car today. As soon as he got in the car he started bitching about how he was going to be late and where is my class so he can drop me off. I asked where he got his shirt (since he nevers buys anything for himself) and he said don't worry about it. That's all he would say, anything I said to him he said don't worry about it! So I said to him, I am giving you my car for no reason and all you can say is don't worry about! I then told him to turn around and go back to his house because he wasn't taking my car. He then proceeded to tell me I'm a bitch and he should kick me out of my own car and go anyway...that didn't go over very well. Then he told me he would never forgive for what I did today...what? So thats my story in a nut shell and its really more complicated then that. It may not make sense cause I am still furious, but for all the guys taht think only girls are the assholes here...thats NOT true

Umm, wait. WHY did you loan him the car again? You sound like a flute that just got played....

Fuck this guy!! Not literally. U got played bad. Ur being too nice. Stay away from this asshole

I did get played...and I didn't let him borrow my car. I almost pulled over on the side of the road and kicked him out of the car, but I alteast dropped him at this house. The worst part is, once i dropped him off he took his car (which wasn't supposed to be working).

whatever...I'm not gonna let it bother me cause i know I'm going places and he's not.

Hahah, I think it's great you stepped up for yourself and told him to turn the car around and that he wasn't borrowing it. Sometimes I let myself get stepped on like that but it's good you told him that he wasn't going to get his way if he was going to act like that.

So I guess uhh, you are looking for a man now eh....

How you doin'?

then he turned it around and the hwole situation was MY fault and he's never gonna forever me...whatever, he's a loser anyway. He's been in school for 3 years and is still a freshman...you have to try to do that.

Who the fuck do you think you are to ask him about his shirt?



j/p

I like seeing jerk-offs get put in their place. +KMA

He is never gonna forever you? Damn. I will forever you for....well....forever.

What an asshole. You were too nice to him. I would have dropped him off on the side of the road.

i should have kicked him out huh...I'm too nice to do that i think, but i wish I could have

I agree, stop letting him treat you like that.

I'll treat ya right dance

Jenny, am I invisible to you? Do you care that I am trying to spill my heart over these words? I mean....jeez...I thought....I thought this was going somewhere....

EDIT Wolfeman, do not try and swoon her. She will just ignore you, and break your heart.

lol...what a loser. He might be the type who just likes to feel wanted...so he wants you and whoever else he can get...to treat him like royalty. Move on.

[quote3c19e6bb06="TryinToGetPaid"]Jenny, am I invisible to you? Do you care that I am trying to spill my heart over these words? I mean....jeez...I thought....I thought this was going somewhere....

EDIT Wolfeman, do not try and swoon her. She will just ignore you, and break your heart.[/quote3c19e6bb06]

I see you, but don't you have one on the way? That would mean you are spoken for correct?

And I am in NO rush to replace this guy...no rush at all

Me and "Jenn" are bff )

Wow, I wish my wife would buy me stuff, she just steals my money...

Lesson learned, I'm sure, go find yourself a real man. ;) If you ever have to buy him something and he at least doesn't try to return the favor, tell him to hit the street....

he bought me a necklace once, and cooked me dinner several times...but that was about it

That sucks that you'd let a guy treat you like that. I always buy my girlfriends gifts and take care of them. Guys that act like that don't deserve girlfirends yet they seem to always have them...

What a double standard.

I hate how people say "if you really care about me you'll do this..." That really pisses me off when people care about themselves more than the other person.

Guy sounds like a real dick! Good for you!

[quotef77971cfb2="Wolfeman"]Me and "Jenn" are bff )[/quotef77971cfb2]

...and every other girl that has even made an account on this forum.

[quotecd907f5bb0="Wolfeman"]Me and "Jenn" are bff )[/quotecd907f5bb0]

playful playful playful playful

sounds alot like my husband. I do everything for him, but he bitches if i ever ask him for a favor. He's always too "busy". I wish I could kick him to the curb. But it's hard with 2 kids and no where to go.
Relationships suck and love is just a fantasy.

Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?

[quote664852e5c2="speedno2chick"]sounds alot like my husband. I do everything for him, but he bitches if i ever ask him for a favor. He's always too "busy". I wish I could kick him to the curb. But it's hard with 2 kids and no where to go.
Relationships suck and love is just a fantasy.

Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quote664852e5c2]

I know tons of people that are happy. I'm very sorry that you're not happy ( I've only been married for about a year but been together for about 7 years now. I'm still happy as a clam.

yea i think you were too nice and he just took advantage of you.

Well, since Wolfe has already "claimed" you, all I'll say is this

Don't let assholes change you.

That doesn't mean you should be a doormat, but you obviously know you got taken advantage of here, and know to be more careful in future. Just don't let it push you to become like them either. )

[quote0f38692bab="speedno2chick"]sounds alot like my husband. I do everything for him, but he bitches if i ever ask him for a favor. He's always too "busy". I wish I could kick him to the curb. But it's hard with 2 kids and no where to go.
Relationships suck and love is just a fantasy.

Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quote0f38692bab]

Do something. Life is finite, and you don't get time back. You could end up spending another 10 years like that and take it out on the kids, even without knowing it. (

[quotecc944fa904="speedno2chick"]sounds alot like my husband. I do everything for him, but he bitches if i ever ask him for a favor. He's always too "busy". I wish I could kick him to the curb. But it's hard with 2 kids and no where to go.
Relationships suck and love is just a fantasy.

Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quotecc944fa904]

Do something. Life is finite, and you don't get time back. You could end up spending another 10 years like that and take it out on the kids, even without knowing it. (

That is such a good point! Life is finite, I agree that you should do something...you don't get these years back that you spend pretneding everything is fine.

Seriously, I have been all bummed about my ex and just recently decided that life is too short and to just move on. No reason wasting life depressed...

[quoteaf08130c13="jonohull"]I hate how people say "if you really care about me you'll do this..." That really pisses me off when people care about themselves more than the other person.[/quoteaf08130c13]

If you [iaf08130c13]really[/iaf08130c13] cared about me you'd edit that post. cry

[quoteaf08130c13="speedno2chick"]Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quoteaf08130c13]

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[quotebe243cb918="jonohull"]
[quotebe243cb918="speedno2chick"]Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quotebe243cb918]

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x2.

Going on 3 years.

[quotede9c4b998f="Veek"][quotede9c4b998f="jonohull"]
[quotede9c4b998f="speedno2chick"]Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quotede9c4b998f]

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x2.

Going on 3 years.[/quotede9c4b998f]

We haven't known each other for 3 years, silly! roll

[quotefcebd8fb27="bballp6699"][quotefcebd8fb27="Wolfeman"]Me and "Jenn" are bff )[/quotefcebd8fb27]

...and every other girl that has even made an account on this forum.[/quotefcebd8fb27]
You make me sound like a prevert. I can't help it that all the ladies want the Wolfe...

People in this world will use you for as long as you allow them too! Glad to see you got your backbone! now just keep it or he will keep using you for whatever he can get because you have allowed him to think he can . STAY STRONG GIRL!!!

[quote337ab9b58c="Wolfeman"][quote337ab9b58c="bballp6699"][quote337ab9b58c="Wolfeman"]Me and "Jenn" are bff )[/quote337ab9b58c]

...and every other girl that has even made an account on this forum.[/quote337ab9b58c]
You make me sound like a prevert. I can't help it that all the ladies want the Wolfe...[/quote337ab9b58c]

Yeah, having his tummy scratched goes a long way. ;)

[quoteef45197761="soon2bbriz"]People in this world will use you for as long as you allow them too! Glad to see you got your backbone! now just keep it or he will keep using you for whatever he can get because you have allowed him to think he can . STAY STRONG GIRL!!![/quoteef45197761]

THANKS!! )

i read this expecting an explanation about some mystery 50 dollars. what was the 50 dollars about.

there is a thread about if you had $50 to spend on whatever you want what would you buy...and I said I would buy the biggest hammer and spray paint and whatever else I could afford to fuck up this guys car.

[quote52f91c6ed0="Wolfeman"]You make me sound like a prevert. I can't help it that all the ladies want the Wolfe...[/quote52f91c6ed0]

wink

I'm waiting for the next thread where you trash his car )

OK, don't trash his car, don't stoop to his level and don't give him the attention (either negative or positive) he so obviously is begging for. Just ignore the asshole and move on.

I don't understand why so many people stay in crappy relationships for so long. All these people who break up and get back together never end up together in the long run.

The thing you have to remember is that over time, it won't be how much you LOVE someone that keeps you together, it will be how much you LIKE them. I see so many couples who are madly in love but really don't even like each other much, nothing in common, don't get along, etc. It's ridiculous. If the person you are with isn't someone you would be friends with if you had never dated them, then get rid of them.

yeah I would never waste my time trashing his car...it's already a piece of shit anyway. I WOULD hit him the in face a few times though. He'll get whats coming to him, thats for sure.

[quote07eefc8f52="JennyWren"]OK, don't trash his car, don't stoop to his level and [b07eefc8f52]don't give him the attention [/b07eefc8f52] (either negative or positive) he so obviously is begging for. Just ignore the asshole and move on.
[/quote07eefc8f52]

I know, right?

What you need is an FiPG Collective of our toughest members (OMW, EatChex89, tylerc, TTGP, TFOAF, Powerbook and gmario) to go over to his house and teach him a lesson he won't forget.

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hahaha, that would be nice!! and to take back all the shit I ever bought for him...thats really what i want to do. Or maybe if there were some way to fuck up his computer by sending fucked up messages or something...that would be awesome too.

Why am I included in that list?

I guess your one tough bitch!

liYou're.

If J4320 reads this he will laugh.

sorry I have been doing homework all night and have stopped paying attention to correct grammar. I apologize

How about cuz ur 1 tuff bich

I wasn't actually trying to correct you, it was a joke between J4320 and I.

but thx u seem prty kewl urself mayb we shud hang out sumtime

[quote3183df1ad0="tylerc"]Why am I included in that list?[/quote3183df1ad0]

cuz joo r n ethug, yizo

[quotec15c928e92="theysayjump"]
cuz joo r n ethug, yizo[/quotec15c928e92]

WHAT???

nevermind i get it...haha e-thug...

[quoteaaa3306be3="theysayjump"][quoteaaa3306be3="tylerc"]Why am I included in that list?[/quoteaaa3306be3]

cuz joo r n ethug, yizo[/quoteaaa3306be3]

thx babe u r rly cute

[quotee1ee18a209="tylerc"][quotee1ee18a209="theysayjump"][quotee1ee18a209="tylerc"]Why am I included in that list?[/quotee1ee18a209]

cuz joo r n ethug, yizo[/quotee1ee18a209]

thx babe u r rly cute[/quotee1ee18a209]

Ok, thats a little disturbing now...do you guys meet in the bathroom sometimes and "help" each other out? Sounds like it...

you guys "playyy" with each other? playful

j/k...maybe lol

Jealous?

I know I am. I hear TSJ is a hero among cats...

of course I am...

I'll cry myself to sleep and then think about it.
cry dance

[quoteb7ade73c80="theysayjump"]Jealous?[/quoteb7ade73c80]

shh no1 cen kno bout us and r luv affare

Ya know, I've been doing a lot of situps lately....just sayin'.....enough to make lists maybe...

[quote499c3c3466="tylerc"]liYou're.

If J4320 reads this he will laugh.[/quote499c3c3466]

lol

[bec9bdb8cf3]Great job Jenn, if he's going to be a jerk to you, then forget him![/bec9bdb8cf3] I can't stand people that say "none of your business". I loathe that expression, so I can understand how you were upset by his "don't worry about it" remarks.

Also, if people you consider friends can't even tell you where they got a shirt, [bec9bdb8cf3]it makes me think he's doing something inappropriate[/bec9bdb8cf3] for the money. You have to watch out, I mean he may have won a bit of money with illegal gambling or something, but now owes a lot. What if he took your car to pawn off for some quick cash? I wouldn't put it past a bum like him.

[bec9bdb8cf3]Good thing the boy I like always treats me with kindness.[/bec9bdb8cf3] a4f's wub smiley
Otherwise... he knows he's not gettin' any... wink

[quote55a95bd710="NYUDiana"][b55a95bd710]Good thing the boy I like always treats me with kindness.[/b55a95bd710] a4f's wub smiley
Otherwise... he knows he's not gettin' any... wink[/quote55a95bd710]

wink

After reading the whole story i feel like the guy was just using you. I have seen alot of stories like that on judge Judy. It is always the same thing, a useless guy and a naive nice girl wh0 would do anything to be with him.

Its sad because a lot of guys act like total assholes and get really nice, really pretty girls so it just reinforces that notion that if you want girls don't be nice, be a prick...

yeah I guess I was the dumb girl being suckered into his bullshit...and I admit that I was dumb. I fell for the lines, of when we get married...or our kids...or I don't know what I would do without you...and your the best...well, you get my point all the bullshit lines that go on forever. And if I saw one of my friends in this situation I would hit her in the face and tell her to snap out of it, but since I was in the situation I was blinded. Lesson learned...

[quotee21062bdc9="Wolfeman"]Its sad because a lot of guys act like total assholes and get really nice, really pretty girls so it just reinforces that notion that if you want girls don't be nice, be a prick...[/quotee21062bdc9]

True.

[quote6e7ba9188b="speedno2chick"]sounds alot like my husband. I do everything for him, but he bitches if i ever ask him for a favor. He's always too "busy". I wish I could kick him to the curb. But it's hard with 2 kids and no where to go.
Relationships suck and love is just a fantasy.

Has anyone here been in a long term relationship and still happy?[/quote6e7ba9188b]
Yes, it's certainly possible. Day after tomorrow (3/17, St. Patrick's Day) is my 18th wedding anniversary, and we're as much in love now -- and respect each other even more -- than when we first married.

A big mistake I see doomed couples make is trying to stick it out for the kids. As much as a "broken family" can be hard on a child, seeing their parents essentially hating each other day in and day out does far more damage in my opinion. While they're probably too young now to understand, ultimately your kids will want the both of you to be happy and will understand that things just didn't work.

If in fact they don't work, that is. I'm not saying ditch it now -- a marriage is hard work and sometimes it takes years for a couple to "click" and be happy together. But once you get to the point of total unhappiness and lack of love & respect for each other, then it's usually best to cut your losses, move on, and take care of yourselves and your kids. As others have said, life is finite, and everybody deserves to be happy (well, at least all of us good folks).

[quote3490524a65="Wolfeman"]Its sad because a lot of guys act like total assholes and get really nice, really pretty girls so it just reinforces that notion that if you want girls don't be nice, be a prick...[/quote3490524a65]
For reasons I will never understand, a lot of girls go for that type of guy. I don't know if it's some misguided sense of "macho tough guy jerk will protect me better than a quiet sensitive guy will" or what. It's common among the younger girls, and much less common as ladies get older and learn the truth. Well, most anyway. Some are born into and live in generations of violence and oppression at the hands of men, and never get out of it because they don't know any better.

[quotee6f386730f="theysayjump"][quotee6f386730f="NYUDiana"][be6f386730f]Good thing the boy I like always treats me with kindness.[/be6f386730f] a4f's wub smiley
Otherwise... he knows he's not gettin' any... wink[/quotee6f386730f]

wink[/quotee6f386730f]

Umm...she didn't mean you. roll .

Hey Diana... wink

She wants me alright? Back off guys...

[quotef34c87c136="theysayjump"]What you need is an FiPG Collective of our toughest members (OMW, EatChex89, tylerc, TTGP, TFOAF, Powerbook and gmario) to go over to his house and teach him a lesson he won't forget.

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Where is this motherfucker? I am going to FUCK his SHIT up!!

[quote6dc6b18b18="TryinToGetPaid"]Umm, wait. WHY did you loan him the car again? You sound like a flute that just got played....[/quote6dc6b18b18]


haha, this guy is gangsta!! +karma bro much love. ( not literally )

[quote43bf52cfe1="Wolfeman"]She wants me alright? Back off guys...[/quote43bf52cfe1]

wait...who wants you? I'm confused...

All the girls ;)

Mostly you dance

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA...thats funny. You make funny jokes! rofl

hey did anyone ever notice that thing rolling around on the floor has no arms...wierd

[quotee8f0967ed4="Jenncherry99"]HAHAHAHAHAHAHA...thats funny. You make funny jokes! rofl[/quotee8f0967ed4]
Whatever, you kicked my ass in our pool. You don't need to rub it in...

yeah i did...wisconsin sucks!!! but i'm still losing (although I am 7th with my shitty pics)

[quote63d910ee86="Jenncherry99"]yeah i did...wisconsin sucks!!! but i'm still losing (although I am 7th with my shitty pics)[/quote63d910ee86]
You are going to make me cry...