need opinions and advice on a gift/freehandbags dilemma

so last Christmas, my fiancee bought me a $200 Coach purse. I returned it because
1) it was white leather and i cant keep white clean
2) i was afraid to accept such an expensive gift that I was sure i'd ruin and feel terrible about it. i even talked to the salesladies and no, there was no way to keep the white leather from being marred. i would just have to live with a pen-stained, $200 purse.

he was somewhat insulted and disappointed that i returned it, but i had to. i couldn't keep it. I felt bad because he was sure i would love it (which i did), and he'd worked so hard to pick out such a great gift. he was even ok with me exchanging it, but (to the saleslady's chagrin) i didnt like and didn't want any of the other ones available. and i just couldnt accept it as a gift.

now comes the dilemma.

i am working on freehandbags.com where there is a Coach purse available, but very different from the one he got me (this one is khaki canvas). it's really the only purse i want on the site, and i dont want to get a different one and/or sell it. i dont really have a problem with having this purse, because if it does get ruined, i didn't waste $200 on it. i may have wasted $30.

if you were the guy in this situation, and your gf came home with a Coach purse, despite the fact that she (basically) rejected the one you gave her for Christmas, would you be insulted or mad?

this has been bothering me for months.....as I want this purse but dont want to insult my dear fiancee.

thanks for your opinions.

I wouldnt be insulted or anything... id be proud that you got it for free. But thats just me.

lol, i agree with liquidskin.

For me I wouldnt care as long as you were happy with what you got. Its the thought that counts right?


aj

i'm kind of thinking he wont care too much, especially since i accepted the $400 earrings that same Christmas, and his engagement proposal 2 weeks later. D

i could just get it, and when he sees it, ask him if he minds......
then if he does, i'll sell it.....

I could say it wouldn't bother me, but somewhere, somehow, by just a tiny bit it wouldn't feel good. I bet he doesn't believe that you actually liked the white bag. Although I understand what your reasons are, I can understand his disappointment too as it takes some effort for a guy to pick a "girly" gift for a girl, you know? I bet he was crushed... Just make it up to him somehow (like with a free ipod heh heh).

lol i already gave him one from freeipods.com
now i'm working on phreeipods.com for myself.
D

i could have exchanged the white purse for a khaki canvas one, somewhat similar to the one on the free site, but like i said, the salesladies weren't too positive on how to keep them clean, and i just couldn't let him spend that much on a purse....

i think he would be a tiny bit disappointed/bothered if i came home with a 2nd Coach purse.....maybe i should look through the other ones available and make a different choice. too bad the Louis Vuitton one isnt on there anymore. even though i'm doing louisvuittonforfree, i doesn't hurt to have a 2nd!

That being said, if it's a nice bag that you like, you should keep it. I'd hope that he'd want you to as well, despite his defeat with the white bag.

[quote71a410565f="vdubgirl"]i'm kind of thinking he wont care too much, especially since i accepted the $400 earrings that same Christmas, and his engagement proposal 2 weeks later. D

i could just get it, and when he sees it, ask him if he minds......
then if he does, i'll sell it.....[/quote71a410565f]

i WOULD be upset IF you didn't do the above...

Hasek.

If you explain why he probably won't care.

Well to go a bit off subject, I ordered a Coach bag from freehandbags & they sent me an email saying Coach doesn't have those handbags anymore & offered me a giftcard from Neiman Marcus or ashford.com

i would probably be just as happy with a giftcard, provided i could use it online.....

sending my info in for approval on freehandbags today! i looked through them and chose the Coach one again.

D

i told him a Coach bag was coming and he groaned and said he wasn't mad and said he thought it was funny.

i asked if he understood why i couldnt keep the one he gave me and he said "yeah i understand but i think you're crazy" (he tells me that all the time lol)

i saw a tinge of disappointment on his face and said i'd sell it on ebay if he wanted and that i didnt want him to be mad....again "no whatever, you're nuts"

i pointed out that i'd accepted his ring, to which he replied "you better have!" and proceeded to explain how guys worry about ring size and whatnot......

so i guess i'm keeping the purse thus far!