ok so i log in to check my trades. all curent ones and visible ones are confirmed by both users, but it says 3 unconfirmed trades
so is this just a temporary error?
That means that the person on the other side of the trade did not click "Confirm". I wouldn't complete the trade until it is confirmed.
well to me it shows they did clickon it and that it is confirmed on both sides
Did you check your hidden trades?? Maybe it's there. Depending on how many active trades you have, maybe you just skimmed past it (I know I have done that several times). If not any of these, you may have to PM a mod about it.